 Significant others and Shadowrun, play SR with your SO? |
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 Mar 17 2006, 12:00 AM
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Target  Group: Members Posts: 87 Joined: 12-January 05 From: Brazil, RN, Natal (Also known as Amazonia) Member No.: 6,968  |
Sometimes itīs tought to have your OS at the game - on my part, I never forced, or even hinted my previous ones (itīs my third marriage now - donīt ask), and they never played with me, although they knew what it was all about.
Now, my actual wife, actually played some sort of RPG before we knew each other (to this day she can tell me for sure what the heck it was), and when I started getting late for our dates (because of game sessions), she made sure I wouldnīt do it anymore - because she would come play with me. Itīs six years, and we play EVERY weekend. And I īll probably never know why, but she likes SR the best, specially sammies and mercs (we played 2nd ed. exclusively for a loooong time, until I bought 4th ed.). She delights in taking names and kicking asses, plays hardcore blood-and-guts FPS like a marine sargent going trough a cadetīs drill and enjoys action movies like itīs the second coming. Even though she is the sweetest person in the world, all hello-kitty-style when sheīs not rolling her dice or working her way through Call of Duty 2 in the hardest difficulty level, cursing like a drunken sailor because those asstard AI soldiers on her side just wonīt MOVE AWAY from the continuous rain of lead coming from her gun. Itīs scary sometimes, but I guess I hit the jackpot. AHAM! well, we mostly try not to bring our problems into the game, and when she is VERY upset, she wonīt play, because she knows itīs going to leak through the character and she wonīt have that on the other players. Nobody ever complained about favoritism and the likes, although they joke a lot about it - mostly because I am the eternal GM of the group (for the last 12 years) and also because to me, no player is better than the other, since they all die the same way. |
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Mar 17 2006, 04:00 AM
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Prime Runner Group: Members Posts: 3,577 Joined: 26-February 02 From: Gwynedd Valley PA Member No.: 1,221 |
My husband has NO interest in RPG's. Before i was married I had a couple of b/f's who tried. It was fun.
In my old group we'd meet at a house where both husband and wife were a part of the group. In fact when they had the house built they put in a room just for gaming. Most other spouses just looked at us and said "whatever." BUT In our group one mamber brought in his g/f and they got married. |
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Mar 17 2006, 04:42 AM
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Moving Target Group: Members Posts: 351 Joined: 17-February 05 Member No.: 7,093 |
I actually started gaming with my GF before we started dating. I brought her into ShadowRun as a player in a game I gm'd that fell apart after about three sessions, but then started up another one that she joined in that's been going on for the last two years. She likes gaming a lot, which is good, though whenever I turn on the evil-GM grin she threatens to cut me off. Never deters me, of course, but it's sweet of her to try.
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Mar 17 2006, 04:47 AM
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Running Target Group: Members Posts: 1,283 Joined: 17-May 05 Member No.: 7,398 |
Nexttime she does, just tell her she's just punishing herself. ;)
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Mar 17 2006, 06:17 AM
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Uncle Fisty Group: Admin Posts: 13,891 Joined: 3-January 05 From: Next To Her Member No.: 6,928 |
Just to clarify, this was another couple that was over at our place while we were having a game. We have weird mixes of players/S.O.s. We haev one guy that has brought his GF every weekend for over a year, and she has never played. Doesn't talk much, doesn't do much other than play PSP, but has occasionally chimed in with very insightful comments that I suppose being removed from the action helps with. We have anothjer guy that had his GF play once, and she wasn't intersted. Antoher guy that has brought a few different girls that watched in boredom. Another guy that we joke is a polygomous because he brought a different girl every weekend for like 3 months. A girl that is the ex of two of our other players. And of course my wife and I. The biggest problem in our relationship with games is that we take turns running the games, so we threaten to get even with eachother. I killed her character with a big nasty blood mage, so now my favorite character has to go to the Aztechnology teocalli in Technchitlan. Yikes. I never get accused of favoring her because I sometimes unconciously come down harder on her than the pther players. She handles it well though , because she's serisouly the best player we have (besides my self of course ;) ), and she is the better GM. |
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Mar 17 2006, 06:35 PM
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Moving Target Group: Members Posts: 278 Joined: 26-February 02 From: Rehovot, Israel Member No.: 265 |
I've had exactly the same thing with my girlfriend, though it was far more cooperative - one of our favorite passtimes is to just sit and spin up plots (typically crazy and extremely funny), brainstorming-style. The goal in it is typically to laugh ourself halfway to death - and to invent interesting characters and situations (even some serious ones) as well as interesting imaginary creatures (we're both studying Biology-related subjects four our B.A. academic degree - I study Ecology and she studies "Animal Sciences" [agricultural zoology], so this typically gets to trying to invent future and/or alternative evolutionary branches and to create paulsible or atleast semi-paulsible beings). One of our favorite characters is a 5-years-old girl called Nejala belonging to a semi-reptilian race (think parralel evolution to mammals, these things are egg layers) who was adopted by a Human "mother" in a semi-fantasy-semi-steampunk setting. Kids are very fun to play if you know how to. Anyway, I intend to introduce her to SR4 (her first "formal" pen-and-paper RPG) in a month or two from now; her character will be an Angakok (Inuit bear shaman) who had to flee the T-PA for seattle due to her eco-rad activity. My girlfriend likes AmerInd (as well as Inuit) folklore and culture quite much so she'll probably get very well into this character. I've made the character's game statistics (she've made up the background and personality) for her using her input, by asking her various question on what her character is good at, what not so good at and so on. The game itself would probably be set around the background of 1999-style mass protests and a politically-heated atmosphere; the runs themselves would probably fir the eco-rad theme too (with a possible insect-spirit conspiracy lurking in the background). |
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Mar 18 2006, 11:08 PM
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Moving Target Group: Members Posts: 257 Joined: 26-February 02 From: Los Coronados | San Ysidro CA Member No.: 106 |
Topics like this one rock!
The current group of us is mixed singles, couples and even a couple within. Let's see, where to start. Mike and I are together (two guys). Jimmy, Bob and Tony are married (to their wives, none of whom game with us). Everyone else is single (three other guys). Tony and Bob's wives both game, just not with our group (one is a D&Der, they are both Larpers... one of them is a Werewolf/Vampire Storyteller actually last I knew). Jimmy's wife doesn't game, and occasionally gets to sit down with some of the other SO's of the group .. point, giggle, tell "nerdy stories" and go on. Historically I guess I have seen damn near everything. I've seen two guys hook up at a game (back in the Quad games at Purdue). I've seen a girl and guy further develop their relationship and move on to be married. I've seen other married couples come and go .. nearly all of whom the group stays in touch with but just don't game together anymore due to distance. I've also seen the fallout of game-relationships. Years back at Purdue, my girlfriend and I had quite a falling out that spilled over into the D&D games we played (the whole group suffered in that one). I've seen a couple of guys at the Purdue games we used to have also have a 'spat' right in the midst of the game insued because of an in-game conflict of characters. Dangerous stuff when one of the two of them can "whiz pennies" with lethal speeds (embeds them into panelling at 30' distance). I've lost one BF to a previous GF due to the games (wow was that something I should never have allowed to happen). I've also become the ad-hoc referee between two guys and one girl all of whom gamed in the group back then because one of the guys slept with (or at least claimed such) with the girl who was the GF of the other guy. And here I thought gaming was "drama". :rotfl: Currently Mike and I (and a third member of the group) rotate who is GMing the story arc (currently embroiled in a spin-off of the "System Failure" storyline). For the last several years he's been my savior giving me a break from GMing after doing so for over 15 years non-stop. Now I'm back and the whole group is recoiling in the midst of a full-on epic. Relationships within a game group can impact the entire dynamic. After this long, the group currently has started to stabilize after our latest "trial". And if anyone is curious about relationships and gaming, my only real advice is "just be patient with one another". What was the most recent trial? A long-standing member of the group has been rediscovering his faith and views of religion. It's taken two years, but he was given the opportunity to step out two weeks ago after several months of growing tensions between he and several other members of the group (shrugs). |
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Mar 18 2006, 11:29 PM
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Shadowrun Setting Nerd Group: Banned Posts: 3,632 Joined: 28-June 05 From: Pissing on pedestrians from my electronic ivory tower. Member No.: 7,473 |
"As the HHH Turns"
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Mar 19 2006, 12:57 AM
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Midnight Toker Group: Members Posts: 7,686 Joined: 4-July 04 From: Zombie Drop Bear Santa's Workshop Member No.: 6,456 |
Problems like these can easily be resolved with free love and free cannabis. |
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Mar 19 2006, 02:21 AM
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Horror Group: Members Posts: 5,322 Joined: 15-June 05 From: BumFuck, New Jersey Member No.: 7,445 |
Wah-hah-haaah-haah-haaaaaah. Love may be free, but the stuff will never be. |
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Mar 20 2006, 04:19 PM
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Moving Target Group: Members Posts: 257 Joined: 26-February 02 From: Los Coronados | San Ysidro CA Member No.: 106 |
Oh hell SL, this is scarcely the tip of the gaming-iceberg as I'm sure you're well aware of. And as for the cannibis comments ... *that* is an entirely different set of situations that forced the rule of "no one comes to game drunk or under the influence" ... PERIOD!!! |
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Mar 20 2006, 05:00 PM
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Midnight Toker Group: Members Posts: 7,686 Joined: 4-July 04 From: Zombie Drop Bear Santa's Workshop Member No.: 6,456 |
Well, come sober and leave stoned was the idea.
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Mar 20 2006, 06:18 PM
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Great, I'm a Dragon... Group: Retired Admins Posts: 6,699 Joined: 8-October 03 From: North Germany Member No.: 5,698 |
Sounds like a good plan to me :D
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Mar 20 2006, 06:22 PM
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Moving Target Group: Members Posts: 112 Joined: 27-January 06 Member No.: 8,205 |
More than ten years, and my (now) wife never has played (any RPG) with me...
It's so sad... |
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Mar 21 2006, 08:37 PM
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Incertum est quo loco te mors expectet; Group: Dumpshocked Posts: 6,548 Joined: 24-October 03 From: DeeCee, U.S. Member No.: 5,760 |
Boy... It sounds like I'm the only person here who has gotten MORE sex due to RPGs. My wife has decided that she isn't so big on normal RPGs, but when I run a game JUST FOR HER, with her as the only player, she loves it, to the point that sometimes we'll spend up to 11 hours a day doing it. Pretty rough on me, except when I get to play the NPCs she's romantically involved with. Whoo!
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Mar 21 2006, 08:43 PM
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Running Target Group: Members Posts: 1,095 Joined: 26-February 02 From: Ontari-airee-o Member No.: 1,115 |
I can hear her now .... "Give me more, I thought you were a troll not a dwarf!"
"Hey honey, can we play our surged characters? Ok you wear the horsehead and tail." |
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Mar 24 2006, 02:27 PM
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Target Group: Members Posts: 87 Joined: 12-January 05 From: Brazil, RN, Natal (Also known as Amazonia) Member No.: 6,968 |
Well... maybe not. My sex life was never changed by role-playing, but some fo my friends started thinking why they didnīt played sooner. Because (at least in my town), there is this big number of goth girls who are deep into LARPing and even role-playing, and that - according to the myth - are easy. I personally canīt tell, Iīm not much into the black clothing and and the ritual piercing (even when I was a teen), but they seemed (to this day) to be pretty much satisfied, thank you very much. But I never got a girlfriend at a gaming session - probably because I was already married, but don īt let me get started on it. |
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Mar 24 2006, 03:42 PM
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Technomancer Group: Retired Admins Posts: 4,638 Joined: 2-October 02 From: Champaign, IL Member No.: 3,374 |
My wife is a player in my games almost 100% of the time. It goes well most of the time, and I don't think people tend to care, or if they do, they're not telling either of us and they're really good and covering it up. One thing we do get into trouble with is that we (my wife and I) are both argumentative. As a result of this and the natural comfort we feel, she'll sometimes challenge a ruling that I make as a GM when other players wouldn't, but it's never gotten out of hand.
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Mar 26 2006, 04:33 AM
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Target Group: Members Posts: 10 Joined: 26-February 02 Member No.: 418 |
My wife and I have been playing together almost our entire relationship for about six years. It's been a lot of fun, but we tend to keep our romantic relationship out of roleplaying. I can see where many people would have troubles with this sort of thing, but we were friends before we started dating, so we enjoy just hanging out with eachother. While I was the one that first introduced her to roleplaying, she had a legitimate interest in it first.
With the exception of a little in-game flirting (once), we've never let our characters be romantically linked. Ironically, our characters have had romantic relationships in-game, sometimes with other PCs - go figure. As far as GMing goes, we've each taken turns and never shown any measure of favoritism to eachother (at least that I've noticed) and we've always had a great time. |
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Mar 26 2006, 09:39 AM
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Mystery Archaeologist Group: Members Posts: 2,906 Joined: 19-September 05 From: The apple tree Member No.: 7,760 |
Well I introduced my GF to gaming. me and her play in all our games together, since I usually ref we have had lots of NPC to PC relationships, but never a PC to PC one. Never been sure if this is because of some unmentioned rule or just that my PCs (when I get to play) tend towards oddness and weird hers out.
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Mar 26 2006, 11:03 PM
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Great Dragon Group: Members Posts: 6,640 Joined: 6-June 04 Member No.: 6,383 |
This thread really has started to depress me. Usually when the topic of RPGs come up the women present express their contempt.
Last Friday I told one woman how someone who looked like her was into Renfaire stuff. The woman I was talking to immediately expressed her horror and disbelief. |
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Mar 27 2006, 05:38 PM
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Moving Target Group: Members Posts: 207 Joined: 3-November 05 From: KCMO Member No.: 7,922 |
I think you're hanging out with the wrong women.... :rotfl: |
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Mar 28 2006, 08:52 PM
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Moving Target Group: Members Posts: 976 Joined: 16-September 04 From: Near my daughters, Lansdale PA Member No.: 6,668 |
I started gaming because my then fiancee, now husband gamed. We moved from New York to Pennsylvania. He and Snow fox would regularly drive back to New York for games. I tagged along to be with him.
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Mar 28 2006, 10:49 PM
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Awakened Asset Group: Members Posts: 4,464 Joined: 9-April 05 From: AGS, North German League Member No.: 7,309 |
My girlfriend is part of my SR4-group. I got to know her as a semi-regular guest player, dated her a few times, and finally was considered boyfriend material. Now she got me into playing "The dark eye" (is it called that in english?) again.
Works fine this way. Another couple was part of our group, though after their break-up she had to leave (lon g story, and none that will be told). Worked fine while it lasted. A very good friend tried to make his girlfriend play but failed. She canīt get her head around the numbers part. Weīll try something close to story telling one day. Advice from this one: Donīt force it on her. Bad juju. |
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Mar 28 2006, 11:15 PM
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Great, I'm a Dragon... Group: Retired Admins Posts: 6,699 Joined: 8-October 03 From: North Germany Member No.: 5,698 |
I game in a Eberron-game where the girlfriend of the DM also plays. She doesn't care about the world (oook) and not about the ruels. She just wants to be entertained, which is quite ok, cause in the end that is what RPG is all about. But it is really unnerving that she never ever knows which number to add to her roll, which spells she knows or what a Shifter is. Hell, we play for 1,5 years now, every 2 weeks, and it's getting not any better. that sucks. |
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