QUOTE (Mordinvan @ Apr 12 2009, 12:53 PM)

You'd call erasing the memory that they were abused child abuse? That they were abducted?
Interesting....
You DO have a strange perspective.
I'm not saying remove all 'stress' but just the major life shattering disasters
A "life shattering disaster" that you process and recover from effectively is simply an event, or series of events, that form a part of your background. You've managed to surpass the events and understand it properly in context. How many men and women these days have recovered from terrible events and gone on to be productive members of society? Can you say that they're not as well adjusted as, or even better adjusted than, people who experience no misery at all?
That is why I advocate restricting this technique to cases where the memories of an event completely cripple your ability to function in society with no realistic hope of recovery. First we need to attempt to help the victims effectively process the events and regard them as something they cannot change. If they are too badly affected to ever be rescued by less extreme measures, then (
and only then) should we consider erasing the memories.
I don't see it as particularly weird to consider
tearing out a bit of their history and self-identity an extreme solution to problems that we have already made inroads into.
Amnesia is considered a disorder, and periods of memory loss are considered a significant symptom. Doing this to children where other options are still possible, or on a whim, should be considered abuse for the same reason we consider surgical practice without reason an abuse.
Your statement was that there were "many" cases where children would be "better off forgetting" events they've witnessed. That was the grounds for the first sentence or two. Where I explained why some events that probably fall into your "better off forgetting" classification may be beneficial to experience. I based my post on the assumption that you would recognise it as criticism of the practice you advocated in your post. That would be why my second paragraph made mention of someone who was protected from stressful, annoying events and has had his ability to live a normal, socially productive, life impaired as a result.
You've misread my words, even as I may have misread yours. Certainly, I appear to have a different set of assumptions about the word "many" and "traumatic" to you. The media has a tendancy, in my experience, to declare events with the slightest risk of children, their parents, or even their
pets dying a "traumatic" and "harrowing" experience. The meaning of "many" is subjective and varies widely by the region of your origin.
I assumed your statement meant that you felt that a large number of events that normal, productive adults experienced as part of their childhood would be better off forgotten. This is, as I have said, likely to be a misunderstanding. That was what lead to me asserting that I would consider such a practice child abuse. Clearly you meant different, assuming that the case you chose to defend your position was the least extreme case where you feel it is warranted, instead of a misleading and fallacious argument for justifying the use in everyday cases on the basis of benefit in extreme cases.