My question is, why wouldn't a person want to talk about it? I think it's psychologically important to be able to talk about it. If you ever read the Vietnam War memoir "And A Hard Rain Fell" the author describes how he couldn't talk about the stuff he wrote about for years and finally he had this big emotional explosion and sat down at a typewriter and wrote his book.
I really enjoy reading Vietnam War memoirs and one thing that strikes me is the really different ways people seem to take their war experience. The guy who wrote "And A Hard Rain Fell" had enlisted to avoid being drafted and got a relatively "cushy" job involved with vehicle maintenance, but he didn't like the military lifestyle and ended up once or twice in combat situations by accident, and then he was all traumatized to the extreme according to his own writing.
If you read "Gone Native", however, the author was involved in a lot more combat and in a lot more dangerous situations (i.e. LRRP and other pretty dangerous things) but he basically doesn't describe any angst related directly to having been in combat situations. He had the chance to not be in combat but opted to put himself in dangerous combat situations instead, writing something along the lines of "not being in combat would have been like being on a basketball team but never playing in the game, instead just sitting on the bench the whole game." The author *did* have some problems (he got busted after he asked for some pot at a bar back in the US and when the cops were beating the crap out of him and taking him down he screamed, "I've killed better men than you!"; he also got court martialed for attempting to frag an officer who had been refusing to let him see his Vietnamese wife or something like that) but all of his problems seem to be related basically to run-ins with establishment or "law and order". When he's talking about participating in violent situations the tone of his writing is in fact mostly positive. It's actually a very interesting book I'd recommend to everyone:
http://www.amazon.com/Gone-Native-Story-Al...0247&sr=8-1EDIT: Wow, how about this? One of the reviews for that book says,
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Visit Grumpy's in Coon Rapids, MN to meet the author.
HOLY CRAP! That would be so cool, to go and meet the man himself. Unfortunately I recently started a new job so I basically don't have any vacation days to visit some random town in MN. Ah well...