This thread is inspired by this other one: http://forums.dumpshock.com/index.php?show...t=0&start=0
That thread has got me thinking about ways to convincingly role play across genders. I guess it's a question that I personally have thought about on and off for many years. Although I don't play Shadowrun right now, I played it every week for many years all through college and grad school with some pretty consistient groups. I only stopped when 1.) the group I'd been playing with fell apart and never came together again after years of interaction and 2.) I left the US for 2 years and since then I haven't been able to get on the wagon again, especially with 4th edition coming in and being all new and difficult to master. Over the course of these years I played both male and female characters, and I noticed that some other people tended to play either characters of only their own gender, and I knew one guy who almost always played characters of the opposite gender.
I remember back when I was in high school and I guess the early years of undergrad I had the idea that if you're role playing a RPG character it shouldn't actually make that much of a difference whether you're male or female. I imagine that this was probably colored by gender equality idealism given my age and a college setting. Simultaneously being a gamer I didn't interact with that many females in the depth that I might interact with my close male friends. Perhaps there was a certain element of abstracted fantasy in my portrayal of female characters, as well; a projection, as it were. For example, this piece of SR fiction I wrote actually has one of my earlier female characters as the protagonist: http://forums.dumpshock.com/index.php?showtopic=13334
But now that I'm a little bit older, and that I've interacted with more females, I actually feel like I have to go back and revise that old idea. Like it or not, it seems as though females do not behave in exactly the same way as males. While this may be partially explained by socialization, I've also seen distinctive gender behavior in a variety of cultural settings and so I am inclinded to believe that there may also be a biological or "evolutionary" component to behavior differences. On the flip side I believe that I've seen cultural settings where women's behavior is socially mandated to be very different than men's behavior, so far be it from me to minimize or trivialize in any way the role of socialization.
From my perspective, if I wanted to portray a "realistic" female character (as opposed to one so oddball that it would be more of an eccentric character rather than a 'realistic' female one) I might actually role play slightly differently than I would for a male character. I almost hate to articulate this because I don't want to sound like I'm rehashing tired sterotypes, but there are a few things I believe I've noticed over the years.
1.) In my experience, both males and females have emotions, but in cultures where discussion of emotions are socially acceptable, females are more likely to discuss their emotions as a central and 'interesting' topic of conversation. The discussion itself may not be goal-orientated or pragmatic but the discussion of the emotions is in and of itself an 'interesting' activity. NB that most *people* aren't very articulate, so sometimes an open-ended discussion of emotion can sound dumber than it really is, if that makes sense.
From a role playing perspective, if I were playing a female character, that could actually be helpful because I could simply broadcast to the other characters from time to time the emotions my character is feeling, which would simplify role play and enhance emotional nuance attached to character portrayal.
2.) This may be heavily influenced by socialization, but I've noticed that in general when women talk about the abstract possibility of being physically victimized in a crime (i.e. a mugging) they often are always talking on the social level about what they would do. Two things I've heard from females include how the female in question would try to talk to the perpetrator (operating on the social level), and a second female once said that if she and another person ever ended up stabbing each other that the key would simply be to stab as much as possible but get to a hospital afterwards so as not to die (operating on the social services level with an internal or self focus). I don't think I've ever heard any females talking about nihilistic physical rage or Conan-esque kamikazee attacks on the enemy, but I have heard males talk about that. Actually, I have, but only once, and only one very special female who had a lot of anger issues and even then her statement had more to do with what she wanted to be doing than what she was imaginging would be happening to the enemy. So I think that perhaps by default males are more likely to get excited about the details of how they can jack another person up, whereas females don't seem to think about that in detail but rather seem to be thinking more about violent situations in relation to themselves and what they'd do in a more self-referential framework. Did that make sense?
I'm not sure if that would come up in SR roleplay or not, though. Since if you give someone combat training that would ideally overwrite their default ways of thinking about altercations. Probably if you gave a female combat training she'd think more about jacking the other guy up on a mechanical level and less about the above.
3.) Chocolate! WTF is it with females and chocolate? I don't even like chocolate anymore very much. I've never heard a male discuss chocolate unless he's a chef. But females seem to bring it up all the time.
This one is pretty straightforward. If you play a female character she should eat chocolate given the opportunity during times of emotional stress.
Well, I'm curious to hear what people have to say about this. In a sense I feel like I really walked out on a limb since it's basically politically incorrect to discuss gender differences without writing some effeminate "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" crap which made me throw up in my mouth a little. I feel like I've probably opened myself up to flames.
Be that as it may I'm curious to hear what people have to say about my appraisal because it's possibly a measure of the accuracy of my social observations concerning females, and as such a measure of the extent to which I may or may not conform to the sterotype that gamers would never ever be successful with females in any way, shape, or form.
I'd also be curious to hear what females may have to say about what they believe a female player must be cognizant of when portraying a male character. I personally believe that a lot of times when I read female fantasy authors (even good ones like Ellis Peters) they write most of their non-villanous male characters as acting like gay men, honestly.