First off, I think everyone here could do with a good read of
this article. I was trying to get Tehana to link to it all of yesterday's conversation.
A lot of you are going, "hurr hurr, breasts, genitals, stop being silly woman, we're just talking about a game / being funny males to each other" and, well, I want to say that that's
fine, but I also want you to realize that doing so kind of excludes people that might not feel comfortable with that kind of discussion - like Tehana. I want to thank the couple of you that have actually apologized and encouraged her to continue posting on this subject; I like seeing when geek guys realize that there are other folks on this board that ain't them. I have a feeling that we have far more lurkers on this board - and a fair number of them of the fairer sex - and I'd like to encourage them to come out and speak about this, and not feel minimized because The Guys are having a discussion.
(This is where I was coming from beforehand when I said, "and we wonder why we can't get more girls into the hobby.")
I'm not asking you to change your opinions out of hand, I'm just trying to get you to realize that what you're saying can make people uncomfortable. Dig?
On the subject at hand, regarding females and augmentation and transfolk and such:
Your genitals, whether or not you realize it, is part of your gender identity. I don't mean your physical sex; I mean the part of your brain that says, "I am X." Talk to a transfolk at some point about how they feel in their bodies, especially if they're pre-op; you'll get all sorts of interesting discussion. I've known some FtMs that bind their breasts down, or MtF that wear chicken cutlets and crotch shapers.
Outside of pure, raw, physical numbers, augmentation, whether cyber or not, is a Big Deal Decision. A character might not think about lopping off their genitals and replacing them with cold hard steel, but I can imagine that there are just as many that it would be a lot of thinking and debating. It ends up becoming part of their gender identity, honestly like any other augmentation, I realize, but there is something special
mentally about getting your genitals augmented.
I will again come out with my position that the cosmetic surgery, augmentation, and trans discussion in
Augmentation was a welcome thing, and I honestly salute whoever wrote that section. I'm not trans myself (but as Tehana noted, we have friends and close family members that are) and it's good to see something in this hobby that's
inclusive, not
exclusive.
One final note - as I book it out the door to work - the folks saying that men have it just as hard as women for discrimination blah blah blah? Men aren't the ones that are getting begged online for pictures of their breasts, or coerced into taking naked cell phone pictures for their SOs, or feel uncomfortable going to conventions because of the creepy attention they get, or basically, being the
constant center of attention for men. Yeah, women joke about men's penis size - but guys are the ones that are eager to get a woman's clothes off and rate them against whatever fantasy they have in their heads. I'm not saying it's exclusive to them, but you really do need to think about these things.
And with that, I'm late for work....